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09.07.2019, 01:28   #751
 
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In the evening, Hannah once again gives a peek into the lead experience

First, its rare to admit to feelings for multiple contestants this early on. (You usually get this sort of confession at the final two or three.) Next, I find this thought process (of sort of sitting and holding back) to be the most believable. Ive always found it weird to imagine a lead so willingly falling and becoming invested in multiple guys knowing its just a matter of time before a brutal reality check. I know its part of their job description to lead on and fall for several guys and the environment is designed for it. But myself, being the sort of person who prefers to underpromise and overdeliver, or to manage expectations (both for myself and others), I have a hard time fathoming getting to the point of feeling feelings of love for a few people knowing theres a rude awakening just around the corner.
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09.07.2019, 01:34   #752
 
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TYLERS 1-ON-1

Tylers 1-on-1 of exploring Amsterdam on horseback seemed nice and breezy until its revealed he has a fear of horses. SHOCKING. I got a good kick out of him attempting to be his usual chivalrous self and to take control and lead the way, but to no avail
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09.07.2019, 01:38   #753
 
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I mentioned last week how happy I was to hear Peter be upfront with Hannah about how frustrating it was to be lumped in with all the drama when he himself hasnt been involved. This week, Tyler took a similar stand, expressing how cancelled Cocktail Parties impact Hannah as much if not more than it does the guys


I LOVED this. My beef with the Cocktail Party cancellations this season is how theyve been used as punishment. Guys misbehaving means time with Hannah withdrawn. But the above is completely true. HANNAH needs this time with them. Its not just about contestants using their limited time wisely to make a good impression. They each can only focus on her but shes the one whos juggling relationships. Shes the one making decisions. Shes the one for whom everything is supposedly at stake. Time is information. By canceling numerous Cocktail Parties, shes punishing herself by limiting information with which to make her all-important decisions.

I mentioned last week that Id be amazed if at this point production wasnt encouraging Hannah to cancel Cocktail Parties since it elicits guaranteed anger and drama among the men. Hannahs response to Tylers statement in the above .GIF supports that theory in my mind. Observe how shes the one who wanted him to explain but she doesnt even acknowledge his subsequent explanation. She doesnt explain herself or even agree, just sidestepping and changing the subject completely.
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09.07.2019, 01:49   #754
 
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In the evening, Hannah touches on something that, as I said in my The Morning After video, shows thoughts on marriage and partnership beyond her years

Now, Im not saying that when I was 24 I wasnt aware of what I loved or didnt love about how my parents communicate, or that I didnt recognize or value being on the same page as the guys I dated. But at 24 I was wrapping up a Masters degree, partying with my friends, considering a move to Europe, in an on-and-off long distance relationship, and in the off moments, enjoying dating all sorts of guys. My mind just wasnt really on finding a husband, much less how we would communicate 10 years into our marriage. But let me be clear: I point out the above as a compliment, not a criticism. I have friends in their 30s who still prioritize superficial things when it comes to dating, not valuing things like communication skills and shared values enough. Theres too much emphasis on attraction and not enough on what makes a good partner. So while a part of me thinks 24 year olds should just chill and only get married if the right person conveniently comes along, I do think if you do want to tie the knot this young, then by all means you should absolutely approach it with Hannahs longterm mindset. Im impressed.
Oh, and Word Watch. Hannah: Tyler just completely cracked open and showed me more of his heart and allowed me into things I think are really hard for him to talk about. But he did that with me a that shows me a lot about the trajectory of our relationship. 👏🏼👏🏼
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10.07.2019, 04:51   #755
 
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Back at the hotel, Mikes date card arrives. A few things stood out to me here. First, I like Mike but felt his reaction to getting this date card was inconsiderate, bordering on obnoxious. You can get a date card and smile quietly to yourself and express being excited (as Peter did perfectly last week), but out of respect for your fellow housemates, save your celebrating for your ITM. Mikes ear-to-ear grins, many of which were in an obviously disappointed Connors direction, felt not only rude, but almost like the two of them have some sort of beef we were never shown. (I dont actually know, mind you, but this analysis reflects how over-the-top Mikes smiles felt to me.) And lest you think Mikes smiles were taken out of context, note where the guys on his left are looking (in Connors direction) when hes grinning, as well as when Connor leaves the room. Second, note Connors Direct-Look-Into-Camera as Mikes name is called and he realizes not only is he not getting another 1-on-1, but he now has to talk about it

Consider how Connor received the seasons first 1-on-1, how hes been encouraged to fall for Hannah every step of the way, and how his producer has likely been egging on how into him Hannah is and how a date card is surely coming his way. In the above clip, you can really feel palpable irritation on Connors part with having to participate in a Man Chat. Connor is disappointed and maybe a bit pissed, but above all, he just wants to be alone and doesnt want to be made to talk about it. But hes made to sit there and do just that. I often get asked, But are contestants really FORCED to do Girl Chats/Man Chats? Can they really be forced to do anything? Of course not, but watch how Connor getting up and leaving was accompanied by dramatic, angry music. Its possible he just needed 10 minutes to himself to decompress, but it was painted as being a rather explosive exit. Now imagine if someone did this all the time, or perhaps in addition to getting a villain edit, and if this person was generally a pain in the ass to work with. You can see how things can add up and how it wouldnt work in hisor his editsfavor to behave that way.
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10.07.2019, 09:08   #756
 
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MIKES 1-ON-1

Heading into his 1-on-1, in an ITM, Mike repeats Hannahs aforementioned Word Watch. Mike: Today we literally could change the trajectory of my entire life. DOUBLE WORD WATCH. 🌈🌈
Andy laughed so hard at the following line, making me realize how funny it was, and then it of course became .GIF-worthy

You dont say!
Mikes entire 1-on-1 felt patronizing to me. It was clear from Hannahs body language on their first 1-on-1 that this was more of a friendship than some great romance. Mike was this seasons contestant to be taken for a ride only to get sent home on a pre-Hometowns 1-on-1 date. This could very well work in Mikes favor, however, given Hannah was crowned Bachelorette from the same fate.
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10.07.2019, 09:12   #757
 
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Back at the hotel, we get the first brewings of Luke conflict of this episode. I really like how Tyler, who appeared quiet and restrained earlier in the season, is really coming out and shutting Luke down on the regular. Most importantly, every point he makes is absolutely correct

This is the kind of thing you notice about certain people in real life, those people around whom drama always seems to swirl, with both friendships and romantic relationships. There comes a point where you just want to say, But maybe youre the common denominator? But notice how Luke responds to a completely different point than what Tyler was making. He cannot process introspection, the consideration that maybe it IS him, but rather pounces on an irrelevant technicality.
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10.07.2019, 09:15   #758
 
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As Mikes suitcase is taken away, Luke cannot comprehend why the guys are pissed with his positive response

It sometimes feels like Luke wasnt properly socialized as a child, like a puppy who doesnt get to play with other dogs. Like, DUH, Mike going home ups your odds of getting a rose. The math is too simple to warrant describing. But social grace and aptitude means not openly celebrating when another guys suitcase is taken away.
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10.07.2019, 09:20   #759
 
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GROUP DATE

On the Group Date, Luke proves how consistent he is by, in his precious minutes with Hannah, bringing up and talking shit about other guys. In doing this, hes also breaking Hannahs own rule of not warning her about other guys. Because, of course, this is all only out of concern for her. Note how Luke tacks that at the end of his point like an afterthought, as though theres any relevance to Garretts behavior towards him and how that might translate to her

Something about the above feels so much like a child, unable to solve his own conflicts, whining to his mommy to make the bad guys go away.
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10.07.2019, 09:23   #760
 
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Ive been hearing whisperings that people dont like Garrett. I find this a bit surprising as I feel Garretts main downfall is taking on and attempting to shut down Luke, an obviously pointless endeavor. Watch how painstakingly and meticulously he traps Luke in his lie, yet how Luke then simply creates a new liea new realitywith which to deflect blame
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10.07.2019, 20:57   #761
 
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In the evening, Luke brings out the big guns, and by big guns I mean his shower with God story. Andy and I laughed SO HARD at Hannahs face flinch in response to Luke claiming to have caught a glimpse of Heaven

but what made this .GIF-worthy was what he said afterwards. This is (one of) my issue(s) with Christianity and the claim that having faith automatically makes you a good person, or even a better person than someone who doesnt. Im all for the inner peace, the inspiration, the community faith can provide. But when its in the context of securing a place in Heaven, aka ultimately being rewarded for good behavior well, I find that hypocritical. The whole point of being selflessly good is to do so with no benefit, no anticipation of a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. Im actually fine with thatI dont think behaving well with the intention of being rewarded for it is a crimebut at least call a spade a spade.
Later in this same conversation, and as much as I laughed when he said this, I have to admit that it counts as a Word Watch. Fair is fair. Luke: I hated chasing my fleshly desires.
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10.07.2019, 20:58   #762
 
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I had to make a .GIF of the adorable moment Peter returned to the hotel and Jed and Tyler showed unabashed excitement and affection for him
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10.07.2019, 21:01   #763
 
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Finally, something that caught my attention was Garrett kissing Hannah goodbye and telling her not to hide her red nose

Its interesting to me when were shown references to past conversations but never actually shown those conversations. This reminds me of last week, when Hannah thanked Dylan for all the things hed shared with her except we never saw any of that. It would appear Hannah and Garrett spoke about her (adorable) red nose and perhaps he expressed a fondness for it, but well never know. Its like hearing a punchline but without the joke.
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11.07.2019, 04:53   #764
 
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11.07.2019, 05:29   #765
 
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"This Feels Wonderfully Feminist": Sharleen Joynt on The Bachelorette
Episode Nine

It never ceases to amaze me how quickly tables can turn, how the lasting impression of someone on this show can completely transform and do a 180 over the course of one episode. Think about how easily our minds can be changedand how powerful a little persuasive editing can beso that within one episode, a hero turns into a villain, or vice versa. Last season, Hannah became the seasons crazy contestant over the course of one episode, then became the I-Am-Woman-Hear-Me-Roar poster child in another. Now, Im in no way suggesting Luke P. was redeemed by his Hometown.
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11.07.2019, 05:36   #766
 
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His many crimes and stomach churning moments are still far too fresh for even the warm-fuzziest of Hometowns to remedy. But it was still fascinating to watch how someone like him could be so adored and respected by not only his family, but his community. In real life, outside of a pressure cooker designed to bring out your worst traits, it would seem even a narcissist has his tribe.
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11.07.2019, 05:42   #767
 
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Im not going to lie, I found this to be a lacklustre Hometown episode. Im willing to admit it could be because I went in with high expectations: Nick Viall, a friend whose opinion I respect (and who gets episodes in advance) told me on Sunday before I watched that this episode was a good one. I agree it was good to the extent that it was differentweve never seen anyone take all four contestants into Fantasy Suite week.

And in a way, I love that its a Bachelorette season where thats happening; Ive always believed sexual compatibility is a MAJOR factor in how destined for success a couple may be, and it feels wonderfully feminist for a female lead to require exploring that before feeling confident in who she keeps or sends home. In fact, its always struck me as a bit absurd that Hometowns would be before Fantasy Suites. It should SO be the other way around!
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11.07.2019, 06:38   #768
 
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That said, this episode oscillated between feeling painfully rote and painfully patronizing. On one handthe rote handthere were the stereotypical Hometowns, filled with feel-good family time, questions about the contestants readiness for marriage and parents fearing their childs heart getting broken but doling out their blessings nonetheless.
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11.07.2019, 07:40   #769
 
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There was also the now-standard questionable Hometown, where the lead gets attitude from the guys family and ends up leaving with more doubts than when she arrived. The one exception was Tyler C.s Hometown which, in the aftermath of this fathers health scare, made for a truly moving visit.
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11.07.2019, 07:56   #770
 
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On the other handthe patronizing handI am unconvinced last nights Rose Ceremony wasnt at least partially an act.

Having been on the show and knowing very well how real everything isor rather, how real everything can feelI personally dont think Im one to overanalyze or doubt this shows realness. (When people stop me on the street to ask me if the show is real, my answer is yes.) Butand again, having been thereI also know how little is left to chance. A contestant cant even have the briefest of interactions with the lead without first consulting with a producer what he plans on discussing with her. (I remember telling my producer Id rather go in with no plan, to just see where the conversation took us naturally, and being told what a bad idea that was.) My point is, a contestant cant wing a 10-minute conversation, yet Hannah can wing the Final 4 Rose Ceremony? Give me a break.
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11.07.2019, 08:10   #771
 
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There is little to no chance producers didnt fully know where Hannah stood and that she didnt feel comfortable sending anyone home. (Just imagine the hours worth of ITM conversation on the editing room floor.) Theres also little to no chance The Powers That Be didnt have an inkling of Luke P.s thoughts on premarital sex, andbeing bonafide experts at spotting potential drama weeks before it occursthe crucial fire that could spark. Im not saying Im 100% positive the entire Rose Ceremony was BS and that Hannah was acting.

That said, I challenge you (seriously, do this!) to rewind your DVR, re-watch that Rose Ceremony through this lens and tell me Im not onto something. Hannah was shaking and crying uncontrollably at sending home Mike last weeka relationship that doesnt come close to comparing in intensityyet she barely sheds a tear over potentially sending home one of these four guys? Nope. Not buying it.
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11.07.2019, 08:37   #772
 
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Finally, while every other lead ever has HAD to axe a contestant after Hometowns, I highly doubt Hannah received much pushback over keeping all four. Id even wager she was offered it as an option. Not only is she the first to do it, making itgasp!unprecedented, but the other guys are automatically irked Luke P. is still in the mix, providing yet another source of conflict.
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11.07.2019, 08:40   #773
 
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Last night was the first night all season where we saw Jed legitimately pissed off, at the thought that hed be categorized the same as Luke P.
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11.07.2019, 08:43   #774
 
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Keeping all four men wasnt only something that felt spoiled by the previewsits something that provided too many opportunities for drama for The Powers That Be to pass up on.
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11.07.2019, 18:21   #775
 
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My frontrunners and predictions based on episode 9 are

1. Tyler C., 26

Tylers Hometown truly tugged on my heartstrings. While I have my doubts that hes really ready for an engagement, I do believe a parents illness can change your perspective and priorities. The chemistry these two have continues to be through the roof, but something I picked up on last night that I havent noticed as much with the other couples is that Tyler C. seems to make Hannah laugh. Hannah tends to be the funny one in her other relationships, but Tyler holds his own with her. We havent seen of ton of Peters or Jeds humourI would actually argue Jed is on the dry sideand given how I know women prioritize this (and rightfully so), it has nudged Tyler up into my tip top spot.
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