A. Холостяк #23 Colton Underwood

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Hell, he passed Tayshia’s quiz about her family members’ names with flying colours—something I felt really showed his heart.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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Watching these dates, it’s easy to imagine Colton as a boyfriend, and a great one. He has the makings of a truly good partner, one who is a good listener, empathizer, and supporter.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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That’s not to say this season’s Hometown episode was without its issues. Colton seems afflicted with the same disease Arie had this time last year, wherein the lead deems it helpful or even appropriate to tell all of his women he’s falling in love with them.

(I know he didn’t tell Cassie this to her face but he basically admitted he would have told her had she expressed similar feelings towards him.)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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It really makes no sense to me when leads think this is OK. The short-term comfort of telling someone what they want to hear does not negate how much worse it will be in the long term, when you inevitably have to send home someone who you’ve pointlessly filled with confidence.

Upon not getting a rose last night, Caelynn said she felt blindsided, and rightfully so. Not only was she given every indication that she would be sticking around until the end, she was also NOT given any sort of an explanation. I have to wonder if leads nowadays are even encouraged to tell their (multiple) contestants that they’re falling in love with them. After all, the higher up they’re built, the worse the fall. In fact, it kind of feels like contestants having the rugs completely and unexpectedly torn out from under them is the new norm. Gone are the days where leads reserved the word “love” (or any iteration of it) for the last contestant standing, and this new reality feels both like a sick form of manipulation and a dilemma for the supposed premise of the whole show, the eventual love story. Does this not take away from the actual, full-fledged “love” a Bachelor bestows his fiancée-to-be, knowing along the way he doled out the L-word as Oprah doled out cars on her talk show?

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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Finally, I have no issue watching the format of this show and certainly don’t have my panties in a twist watching one man court multiple women. That said, I don’t know how many more seasons I can handle watching a Bachelor, a man who we regularly see heavily making out and “falling” for multiple women, somehow claim that he’s a man of tradition who “needs” a father’s permission to propose. First, this is an antiquated custom. Giving his girlfriend’s parents a courtesy heads’ up is one thing, but requiring her father’s (and only her father’s!) go-ahead to even propose is just sexist.

Second, I used the article “a” in “a father’s permission” intentionally—this is exactly how Colton himself worded it. But where’s the purported personal touch (the personal touch requiring permission in the first place) if he can’t even zero it down which specific woman’s father’s permission he needs? There is nothing less personal than asking the father of the woman he may propose to that you want “a father’s blessing.” If a man doesn’t yet know precisely to whom he’s proposing (or does know but still plans on exploring other relationships—in more ways than one—until then), he has no business gathering generic paternal blessings.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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Top 2 Following The Bachelor Hometowns—and Who Is Going Home Next
1.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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2.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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Going home:

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)