Arie Luyendyk Jr Холостяк #22

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That night, I was excited to spend quality time with everyone off of the track and out of the mud.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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Like the first night we met, Chelsea pulled me first at the afterparty.

Reading a lot of your tweets, I know that Chelsea got flack for pulling me twice, but from my perspective I didn’t really see any of the drama unfolding. All I saw was a beautiful woman eager to spend time with me – and I liked that. Learning about her son, Sammy, was so humbling. She left behind so much to meet me, and her aggressiveness just further proves how seriously she’s taking getting to know me.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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I had so many great conversations that night. My chemistry with Bekah M. was off the charts. I was apparently able to make up for the “excitement makes me excited” line. I can’t say I’ve ever dated anyone like Bekah. She’s so smart, charming, and charismatic, and as far as our kiss … well, I feel like the kiss says it all.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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I was absolutely floored by Seinne. That such a worldly, cool, gorgeous, Ivy League-educated woman would spend this time with me put the whole experience into perspective.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

Cheerio

про Кристэл что думаешь?

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- I thought I knew what to do. I failed.
- Good. Now go fail again.

barish

I found myself wondering if she was totally out of my league. I didn’t want our conversation to end. That’s why I knew she was right choice for the rose.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

А ты?
Я думаю, что она очень похожа на его маму, а потому его притянула.

Сама она странноватая, ей сложно в этой обстановке, она не очень дружит с реальностью и не знает как себя адекватно вести с девушками. Вот, похоже у нее проблемы с адекватностью. Ну, это не удивительно, зная историю ее семьи и ее детства. Скажем так, я ее в общем то понимаю, но не могу сказать, что она мне очень нравится.
Али Федотовски делала разбор 2-го выпуска на ТВ, сказала, что либо ее подзадорили продюсеры поговорить с Ари перед ЦР, либо не остановили ее, если она сама этого хотела, без одобрения продюсеров никто никого не перебивает.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

Cheerio

давай откровенно. Бибиану здесь держат продюсеры для драмы. Она совершенно не женственна, самоуверенна и достаточно агрессивна. Какая была вероятность что Кристэл перебьёт именно её разговор? Крайне низкая. Кристэл очень легко поддаётся манипуляциям и это плохо. И то как она повела его на место где они встретились... как будто они уже женаты. Очень глупо, и мне кажется - тоже по наводке продюсеров.

С девушками она постоянно закрывается. После свидания вообще настолько сильно, что мне опять показалась наводка продюсеров. Но у неё вообще очень плохо с социальными навыками, она очень сильно зациклена на себе.

Но мне кажется она не плохой человек. И похоже из неё будут делать монстра.

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- I thought I knew what to do. I failed.
- Good. Now go fail again.

barish

From Arie's blog

Going into the cocktail party, I found myself worried about how little I knew about so many of the women. How could I possibly know who to send home?

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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Watching it all back, that’s why I totally understand Bibiana’s frustrations.

Being on the other side, I know that you desperately want to see if you have a connection with the person you’re dating. You’ve sacrificed so much to be here, and you just want your fair shot at love. I also understand Krystal wanting to get more time.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

As much as it may have rubbed the girls the wrong way, we had just had an amazing date. and it’s difficult to not be able to spend time with one another. I really wish I had known how much Bibiana was struggling that week, though. She’s so vibrant and interesting and I wish I would’ve known she needed a little extra support.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

The rest of that night was a fantastic blur. Some things you didn’t see were Marikh teaching me how to smize (smile with your eyes), Jacqueline feeding me different aphrodisiacs, and Lauren B. reading me a really beautiful letter she wrote. Even though my time with the women is sometimes so short, we can still have fun and make meaningful connections.
​The second rose ceremony was harder than the first. Once again, I really had to go with my instincts and ask myself, Can I see myself potentially marrying this person? Do I think what we currently have could eventually turn into love? It was shocking when Jenny tried to leave without saying goodbye.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

I have to be honest, after watching everything and seeing things I hadn’t seen that night, I know I made right choice. She’s a really great woman who has a lot to offer, but when she said she was upset about saying goodbye to her new friends and not me, I knew my instincts were correct. I feel so grateful to be The Bachelor, but my fear is some of the women are here for the friends or the experience and not because of me. In moments like that, I feared that this whole thing may not work and that I put my life on pause for nothing.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

And those fears don’t go away. I came here for one reason: to find my future wife. I kept asking myself: Is she here? How do I know? I always knew this whole thing would be difficult, but I didn’t realize just how hard it would be. And it kicks into high gear fast. As I start falling for some women, other women start falling apart.

I hoped that the flare-ups this week were just a blip, but this was just the beginning. Next week, a surprising guest from Bachelorette history makes an epic return, and there will be an unexpected goodbye. Just a couple weeks in and there’s already way more romance, drama, and tears than I had ever expected. You won’t want to miss it.
See you next week!
Best, Arie

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

Sharleen Joynt on The Bachelor: Episode 2

Oh man. How is this still a thing, you guys? I will NEVER understand why women with roses feel the need to take extra time at Rose Ceremony cocktail parties. Tensions are already high, and there’s no surer way to stretch them even higher and make yourself universally despised.

And no person is so “smitten” that they’re incapable of sitting back through an evening for the sake of harmony and their reputation. Note how under-the-radar Becca K was. She was in Krystal’s exact position, except it’d been even longer since her 1-on-1.
I strongly suspect this “need” for extra time stems from an unconscious desire to feel special again (especially if a few days have passed and you can begin to feel forgotten—you’ve heard me talk about the first week 1-on-1 date curse before), but that ties back to ego… which, by the way, isn’t a “right reason.” And I speak from experience when I say the time you’ve just alienated yourself for isn’t meaningful or even all that enjoyable. It doesn’t compare to 1-on-1 date time because having so many other women looming in the background and knowing your time is so limited is not remotely relaxing or conducive to discussing anything of significance. (Case in point, in Krystal’s two cocktail party “conversations,” we saw her and Arie revisit the incredibly un-unique spot where they met a whole five days ago—where and when he also met 28 other women—and heard her say things like, “I’m here to spend time with you and build our connection.” You couldn’t write blander, less worthwhile 1-on-1 time.) This isn’t about “I’m not here to make friends” or “I’m here for him.” It’s just consideration for others (more on that below) and LOGIC.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

That said, I am impressed with the other women this season. There is a strong sense of camaraderie among them. A couple of subtle examples were when Jenny apologetically approached Maquel’s Group Date 1-on-1 time and Maquel said, with dramatic sarcasm, “Oh my god.” Another spot was when, upon being sent home, Jenny’s biggest source of distress: “I’m sad about leaving my friends.” Most of all, though, I loved the moments where women eschewed laying low to speak up on behalf of the group. Exhibit A was during the Group Date cocktail party, when Chelsea justified her extra-aggressive behavior with Arie by insinuating she had sacrificed more to be there (by leaving her three-year-old son) than the other women had. Marikh (who, from what we’ve seen, is usually on the quieter side) perked up and rightfully laid down the law, saying they’d all made sacrifices to be there. Being a single parent on this show is not a Get Out Of Jail Free card to treat your time more valuably than others’, or like you are some VIP to whom the rules don’t apply.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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Of course, Exhibit B is from the Rose Ceremony cocktail party. Okay, so Bibiana is a bit of a hothead (her outburst at the other women at the Group Date cocktail party, and her mocking of Krystal’s voice and way of being both went too far),

but she skyrocketed in my book when she, no holds barred, called Krystal out on stealing time from other women. Because make no mistake, that’s what Krystal did. There is a finite amount of time. If other women have not had time and you have a rose already and still take time, you are directly taking time, whether a snippet’s worth or an entire conversation’s worth, from others. Look, I am fully aware that there is a zero percent chance a producer didn’t encourage Krystal to do this, particularly during Bibiana’s time (that’s just too much of a coincidence given what a sure thing Bibiana’s rage would be), but no producer can make you do anything and her actions are her own. It was painful to watch Krystal ostracize herself so early (and willingly!). All the women were visibly furious with her, and Bibiana spoke up not only for herself but for them, becoming their “voice,” as she put it. Having a temper might help, but it takes courage to do this.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

My Top 4 frontrunners have shifted around this week…

1. Becca K, 27: Getting the first 1-on-1 is no joke (recipients of these always go very far), especially when it’s one of those Cinderella (a.k.a. free stuff) dates like this was. You don’t give swag of that calibre to just anybody. (Think Jade’s actual Cinderella-themed date on Chris’ season, and Bryan’s Breitling watch date on Rachel’s season.) Arie’s really drawn to Becca in a way that feels very real-world to me. Meaning, it feels natural and as though the cameras are an afterthought (to me their conversations felt so much like ones you’d have a real first date, not a Bachelor first date). Becca is obviously beautiful, but it’s the fact that Arie repeatedly called her “down to earth” that has her topping my list. I’ve never met a man who didn’t (rightfully) prioritize down-to-earth-ness in the search for his mate.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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2. Bekah, 22: The fact that Bekah is such an strong frontrunner without having had the First Impression Rose, a Group Date Rose or a 1-on-1 says something. The chemistry here is remarkable. Whether you’re perturbed by the age difference or not, there was no denying the electricity in their kisses. (That first kiss might be one of the best ever.) There is a 1-on-1 with Bekah’s name on it coming any day now and it’s going to be GOOD. I also imagine the age thing will surface and come to some sort of a head.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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3. Krystal, 29: This was a MAJOR 1-on-1 to receive. Krystal got to meet Arie’s family, which is usually saved for Final 2, or at least a much later 1-on-1. I really do like Krystal which is why it’s all the more frustrating to watch her make herself the new Enemy Number One (bumping Chelsea). She’s beautiful and has got a softness about her while evidently possessing serious strength as well (given her upbringing) and she just seems to have a fantastic outlook on life. I do believe she is genuinely into Arie and I love her specificity in describing it: “I felt understood and listened to… he makes me feel safer and braver.” The reason Krystal’s at the third spot is because of the time-stealing. I think doing this repeatedly will work against her. There’s simply no way, with her second interruption during last night’s Rose Ceremony cocktail party, that Arie could’ve found that charming. There comes a point where, no matter how into Krystal he is, he still has SO many women to see, he’s likely exhausted, and it’s eating into that precious time to assure to her that, yes, he did miss her. Seeming normal is very important this early on and the almost needy-seeming aggression doesn’t exactly lend to that.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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4. Seinne, 27: I had to bump Annaliese this week. The fact that her 1-on-1 time at the Group Date was not at all shown (it wasn’t even glossed over into a montage like some of the others’) and that her only major screen time was spent crying about the demolition derby… not a great sign that she’s going as far as I predicted. Seinne, meanwhile, had her Group Date 1-on-1 time shown and it was not only accompanied by nice music and capped with a kiss, but was chock-full of impressive intel. Seinne is well-traveled, highly educated, modest and normal-seeming, and she just oozes class. Oh, and she’s also one of the most beautiful people I think I’ve ever seen. She seems to have it all, and this is definitely not lost on Arie.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

В Бибиане что то есть, она мне своей напористостью напомнила Эмили. Нет, она не фаворитка, иначе бы он ейи так время уделил, а так ему все было не до нее. И среди кандидаток на вылет наверное она выделялась своей энергичностью, а ему такие нравятся, но не думаю, что у них был какой то контакт, какое то притяжение. И да, наверное продюсеры оставили ее, т.е. предложили оставить и Ари посмотрел и уверился, что сделал правильный выбор.
Не знаю как такой абсурд мог прийти в голову даже продюсерам, повести на место встречи, это вообще полный абсурд!
А я увидела ее как человека, не умеющего отстаивать себя, а потому старается избегать конфликтов. И если она не будет дружить ни с кем из девушек, то лучшей подругой/другом будет ее продюсер, а это уже проблема!
Да, так и есть и это то я и назвала тем, что у нее проблемы с реальностью, она закуклена в себе. А от этого ее поведение кажется несколько инфантильным.
Нет, она совсем не плохая, но я там пока не видела реально плохих. А драму же надо на чем то делать. В первом выпуске делали на Челси, она бывает агрессивна в своем стремлении добиваться Ари, но это в какой то степени оправдывается ситуацией. В промо ролике след. выпуска Кристал говорит, что ей надо быть более агрессивной, думаю это по наводке продюсеров, поскольку она не агрессивна по натуре, выглядит скорее needy. Ну да, и будут на этом делать из нее монстра и еще более противоставлять ее девушкам. Не думаю, что это хорошо для нее закончится. Она что, не смотрела это шоу раньше???
Я ее не вижу с Ари. Еще во время их свидания я поняла, что ей особенно трудно будет даваться без его внимания долго, а другое ИС вряд ли ей светит, если только она дойдет до финальной 4-ки, в чем я сомневаюсь. В общем посмотрим.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

Мне очень понравилось свидание с Беккой:

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)