Холостячкa #13

barish

I enjoyed Peter all season long.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

Aside from him being so easy on the eyes and an A+ dresser, it’s been refreshing to have an intelligent, eloquent contestant clearly invested yet not willing to bend to the rules of a highly unnatural process.

It’s difficult to hear his reasons for not wanting to propose and not nod in agreement. My favourite line of his was when he said, “I feel feelings of love, but those feelings are recent.” Why shouldn’t he want to wait to be 100% sure? And conversely, why shouldn’t Rachel want someone who is 100% sure?

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

I’m reminded of an astute comment left over on the blog: “I get that Peter is handsome, kind, easy to talk to—but wow—it seems overwhelmingly obvious to me that Peter is not emotionally available.” This rang especially true last night.

I do believe he felt those emotions of love and that, had Rachel insisted, he would have proposed to appease her. But that is with the Bachelor bubble—remember, an environment by design meant to make you fall head over heels, and fast—blowing wind at his sails. What would happen a week later, or a month later? As his own mother put it, Peter is ready for commitment and a relationship, but he’s not ready for marriage.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

He wouldn’t be the first man to feel this way. Rachel was right to mention her ex, a relationship of five years that felt like it should lead towards marriage but never did. An ex of mine was the exact same way. There’s a permanence to marriage that scares many men (and women!), and I think not only do they have to meet the certain lady who can unlock a willingness to go there, they have to already be beyond ready for it. Neither of those conditions were in place with Peter.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

This was my favorite Bachelorette season in a long time. (а для меня это вообще мой самый любимый сезон за все 15 с лишним лет!)
As with many Bachelorettes, Rachel is beautiful and charming. But what I love the most is her overriding pragmatism.

You could feel her calculating the long-term into her every decision (I laughed when she joked about grilling the guys about their health insurance and credit scores), painfully aware that the Bachelor bubble is temporary. Also, perhaps because I’m also a woman in my early 30s, I felt for Rachel’s needs.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

The life trajectory needs, of course, but additionally the traits she needed in a partner: self assuredness and unflappable confidence, both in himself and in them as a couple.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

What was also interesting about realistic Rachel, though, is she’s proof that any of us would get teary-eyed and confused at the prospect of sending men home.

I’ve spoken to enough leads to know you really do fall for more than one person and you really do get confused, though it’s easy from the comfort of our sofas to assume it’s either an act or they’ve just lost their wits. We’ve seen that Rachel can’t fake anything (another favorite feature) and, as she’s stated more than once, she doesn’t say anything for the sake of it. Under these special circumstances, a reasonable, discerning, intelligent person can feel romantic love for four different people, and Rachel is proof of that.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

Finally, what a beautiful couple Rachel and Bryan make!

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

I love that they’re both mature, career-oriented individuals who know what they want. I love the idea of them setting up shop in either Dallas or Miami and continuing their careers and investing their energy in their relationship and future family.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

I really do have high hopes for these two and I wish them all the best.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

Congratulations to the happy couple!

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

__________________
“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

__________________
“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

__________________
“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

__________________
“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

__________________
“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

__________________
“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

__________________
“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

__________________
“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

__________________
“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

__________________
“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

__________________
“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

__________________
“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)