Американский Холостяк #20 Ben Higgins

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Ben officiating the weddings is actually super cute, and he manages to sprinkle some of his fantastic sense of humor in there.
I'm not into weddings fraught with nerves or seriousness. I want my wedding to basically be a big, relaxed party full of good humor and good food.
In the evening portion of the date, Ben continues to talk circles around Farmer Chris' even most eloquent moments, making Becca, who was so apprehensive last season, weak in the knees: "At the core of everything, it's your belief, it's your faith, it's your morals, it's your values, it's a commitment to God. It also in my mind relates back to marriage. Your pretty good at making commitments, which is something I'm very attracted to."

I rarely touch on religion here, but to me one's faith and one's morals are separate things, and frankly, how the two became intertwined to ever mean the same thing is something I cannot understand. (I'm not saying Ben thinks they're one and the same. I'm just venting.) I think you can be a devout person and have awful morals, just as you may not believe in anything yet be a decent, upstanding citizen, with the shades in between being innumerable. (The two examples I just linked out to are of course extreme cases.) I tend to believe that at their cores, humans are inherently good, and one's religious views—for better or for worse—are the result of environment, influence, and circumstance. Okay, rant over. If nothing else, you learned a bit about me and my viewpoint.
Becca is clearly moved by Ben's assessment of her and in her ITM, states: "He is amazing. I almost started crying because, like, I've never had a guy make me feel so confident and reassured in who I am. I've been missing that." There's no denying that Becca is WAY deeper in than this time a year ago.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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THE TWINS' TWO-ON-ONE
Hoo boy, this episode just never ends. In the interest of finishing this recap in time, I'm going to have to gloss over this date. Thankfully, I've already expressed my thoughts on it. In a nutshell, I felt this moment was the predominant reason the twins were cast (beyond the obvious novelty factor), to ultimately pit the sisters against each other. Let's be honest, it wasn't necessary to for Ben to eliminate one to be able to focus on the other. That makes no sense. They're separate human beings and each can be regarded as a romantic interest whether or not the other is there. But I digress. Since when does anything about this show make sense?
My personal highlight of this date were the fact that Haley clearly either still has a boyfriend...

... is recently broken up (despite saying it was "from a long time ago"), or is simply not over said boyfriend...
It's very funny to me in any scenario.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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ROSE CEREMONY
If you read last week's recap since Wednesday, you'll know I was required to take down what I posted that Olivia had told me. Honestly, it got me really down and I had a hard time motivating myself to write this one at all. First, I know this blog isn't saving lives or anything, but I do try to do good with it. I try to get my readers to watch the show differently and wonder about what's behind that fourth wall. Above all, I want viewers to not hate any contestant. I'm aware that I can be critical of contestants, but I always base it on what I see that can't be edited beyond recognition. Rather, if you insist on hate-watching a contestant, remain objective enough to know that what you see of them has likely turned them into a caricature and in no way represents who they are.
I guess what I'm saying is, since Wednesday, I've felt a suffocating sense of "What's the point?" So few people will ever even read what I write here—a fraction of a fraction of all the viewers of this show—and it's been two years since my own season. Yet, I still can't share something from behind the curtain, that, in my humble opinion, might do the slightest bit of good in changing the way viewers see

For that reason, I have nothing to say about the Rose Ceremony. Correction: I have plenty to say about it, but I'm not allowed to, and in my down state I don't have the energy to dissect it. The entire Rose Ceremony revolves around Olivia and her many transgressions, and for me to dispute each one just feels like a waste of time. Olivia will continue to get the awful edit she's been getting, in small part because she deserves it for being impressionable, in small part because she's not a social creature, and in large part because it's the role she's been assigned. It's hard to picture her "winning" at this point since Ben is clearly not as into her as he is all 5 women who've had one-on-ones. At Women Tell All, she'll sit in the hot seat and defend herself. Hopefully, what she says there will redeem her. The producers may manage to convince her to do Bachelor in Paradise (a credit unto itself to their powers of persuasion), another shot at redemption (as successfully proven by JJ Lane), but there are no guarantees. Above all, nothing can undo the damage this show has done to her image, at least not for the near future.
I'll just say this: I know that conversations are not what they seem. I know that girls appear angry about things when in fact they got over it quickly. I know that a mumbled remark that appeared to be in response to something else... well, wasn't. Cryptic, I know.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

See Ben pay the women a visit ... at 4:30 a.m. on @BachelorABC: http://bit.ly/20y7Xuw

__________________
“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

__________________
“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

__________________
“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

__________________
“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

__________________
“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

__________________
“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

__________________
“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

__________________
“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

__________________
“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

__________________
“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

__________________
“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

__________________
“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

__________________
“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

__________________
“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

__________________
“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

__________________
“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

__________________
“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

__________________
“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

__________________
“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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