Американский Холостяк #20 Ben Higgins

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In Lauren B's getting ready for her one-on-one, I couldn't help but make a very random observation. Either she or one of her roommates was very smart in bringing a little mirror:

This is a very random (if not "fun") fact: There is a noticeable lack of mirrors in the Bachelor mansion. I know that sounds weird, particularly because there's so much emphasis on our looks, but it's totally true. In my room (the pink room!) which I shared with Nikki, Andi, and Alli, the only mirror was in the bathroom and it had a bizarre weathered effect to it, making it useless for your reflection. After we complained for days (and survived with the mirrors in our compacts), a handler finally delivered one of those flimsy—but functional—small-ish full length mirrors. It wasn't uncommon to see us clustered around it in a sort of totem pole formation so we could all see our reflections simultaneously. Just trust me when I say, when all the women are getting ready for something at the same time, mirror space is prime real estate.

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We all knew a one-on-one was coming Lauren B's way sooner or later, but DAMN she got one of the coolest ones I think I've ever seen...

Lauren B says, "I'm not super into situations that I've never been in. I like to know what's going on. I'm a planner." I love it when people can just admit to not liking something that most people claim to like. It might sound unremarkable but it's rarer than you'd think. At a recent dinner, a girlfriend of mine told me she doesn't like to travel. She admitted that's weird because "everyone likes to travel", but I actually loved her confidence in being able to say that, knowing people would scratch their heads at her. Anyway, with how glorified it is to say "I love adventure" or "I love surprises", I appreciate Lauren B's honesty.
After their plane lands, there's a very funny and very Bachelor-appropriate product placement.

Back at the mansion, house mom Jojo is the voice of reason.

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Back on the date, Ben is super into Lauren B. We know already that he's is a bit more eloquent than some past Bachelors. This is simple, but I can't imagine Farmer Chris saying the following: "I spent the day with you, and not only did I get the gift of looking at you and laughing with you, but just being with you. It almost seems silly, but Lauren, will you accept my rose?" (это были самые любимые слова за весь эпизод для меня, как просто и как точно он выразил то, что чувствовал, за этими словами много чего читается! )Not to rip on Chris (I did happen to find him a pretty funny Bachelor), but his would sound more like, "I spent the day with you and it was... amazing. You're just... amazing."
And DAYUM the way Ben looks at Lauren B!


Back at the mansion, the girls are in the requisite U-formation to receive the loud knock at the door, something I for one never got used to.
Jojo once again says it like it is.

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GROUP DATE

I don't have much to say about the soccer group date. It's pretty much a replica of every other competitive sport date we've ever seen on this show. Drama is guaranteed if you pit two teams together and force the losing team to go home instead of spending the evening portion of the so-called date with the lead. (Never mind how counterintuitive that is to the supposed premise of the show.)

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At the mansion, Jubilee says something that really stuck with me...

I have a theory as to the reason why so many of the contestants on this show fall so hard for the lead. Yes, of course, there's the living-in-a-bubble thing, the blinders-on mentality, the sense of competition making the "prize" seem even more prize-like... But it's no coincidence that the farther people go, generally the more and more "in love" they seem to fall (and thus more brokenhearted when they're cut). I don't know about you, but in my experience the more and more I've gotten to know someone of the opposite sex romantically, the less likely it was that I'd fall in love with them. It's not that I'm hyper critical or picky, it's just that not everyone is meant to be with each other, and as we get to know each other better, the cracks in compatibility tend to show.
But in this alternate reality, contestants start off in a position of feeling invisible, or at least not particularly special. To be singled out, especially early, as someone who "sticks out" to the lead, is flattering to say the least. That feeling of specialness is not to be underestimated in a realm where your self esteem and sense of self are being challenged daily. Therefore, my theory is that contestants fall "in love" more with that feeling and confuse it with actual love for the lead. This is something I've been pondering both from my own experience and from having been a viewer for several years. Thoughts??

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JUBILEE'S ONE-ON-ONE

I've always envied those folks who can be 100% themselves around new people or when they're socially out of their element. I've never been able to be that way and therefore I feel for Jubilee. Watching her entire one-on-one date, it's clear she's usually the class clown but she doesn't know how to let that side of her out without coming off like she doesn't care. It was frustrating to watch all the girls moan about how she didn't seem "grateful" when Jubilee was obviously using sarcasm to offset her discomfort. (Oh, and for the record, she literally jumped off the sofa and screamed upon hearing her name on the date card. Not the reaction of someone who doesn't care.)

In her own words: "With me, there's always this level of discomfort when I'm with somebody. Like, I can't really be myself, I can't joke around, say my jokes, you know, or just be who I am naturally."

Just watch her self-edit her own joy as Ben reaches for the rose to offer it to her.
It was in the above moment that I finally fell in love with Ben as the Bachelor. In addition to being eloquent, he's sensitive and perceptive. Jubilee doesn't fool him for a second. He just gets it.
Да, да, да, именно в этот момент, когда он разговаривал с Джубили я тоже в него влюбилась!
Чирио говорит, что такие мужчины, типа, не пользуются спросом, наоборот, ни у одного Холостяка не было столько поклонниц как у Бена, он, пожалуй, действительно самый лучший холостяк за все 20 сезонов! Посмотрим...

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ROSE CEREMONY
The Rose Ceremony has a somber tone to it as Ben announces the sudden death of longtime family friends of his. What ensued with Olivia did not sit well with me (I said in my Flare recap that the topic of her cankles should not have been even in the mix, regardless of context.) As many of you know, I get to know some contestants as the seasons progress, but I do my best to avoid any bias when recapping. (Contrary to popular belief, for example, Nick Viall and I did not become friends until Andi's season was almost finished, long after I'd spent much time defending him.)
<center></center>I asked Olivia specifically about this conversation because I wanted her side of the story. Even when I know these details, I usually don't include them, but rather try to encourage everyone to keep an open mind about context, editing, etc. However, it would be impossible to write about this cryptically, as what she told me is very specific. So—I never do this—but here's what Olivia had to say about the cankle debacle:
"So growing up, I was bullied really badly for being overweight. I've had people say horrible things about me. Boyfriends broke up with me because of my legs. I hate them. My first two dates I had to wear spandex and I was so embarrassed with all of these beautiful skinny girls. Then after the soccer game Ben said to me "your legs are long." I freaked out and thought OMG he hates them. Then he said, "I love them." I almost cried. I'd never heard anyone say that to me before. But we ran out of time and I wanted to open up to him about how much that meant to me. So [the night of the Rose Ceremony] I asked him how he was doing, told him I was there for him always, and then said that he told me something that changed my life. I opened up about my past. Then I said regardless of what happens, just that little thing you said showed me that there is a man out there that will look at me and not see the imperfections that I see. Showed me that I can love every part of me and someone else can, too. It was the first time I'd ever opened up to him and shown vulnerability. He seemed so happy and was smiling like crazy. I wanted to tell him that to make him feel good. That was my favorite conversation with him and it was completely butchered. Oh, and I didn't even get the rose last that day. I was fourth to last to get it."

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<center></center>Of course, this is Olivia's point of view, and I admit it's hard to take her insecurities about her appearance seriously because she's obviously beautiful. (Kак же Шарлин неправа, у самой красивой женщины может быть куча психологических проблем и мы знакомимся с проблемами Оливии) However, I know what it's like to have people roll their eyes at your over your insecurities, and there are facts here that cannot be ignored. Cankle talk taken out of context? Check. Ben's voiceover sounds like he's aggravated Olivia chose to talk about it. Frankenbiting? Check. (I listened back and he does not use her name. And even when he does say "It's not exactly what I want to talk about", it's clearly spliced from elsewhere. (Tем не менее все то же самое он написал в своем блоге!) I tried to capture the audio but Quicktime is not agreeing with me these days.) Lastly, the Rose Ceremony order shows Olivia getting the last rose, making us think Ben was turned off by her, when she in fact received the 4th last rose. So, manipulative editing? Check. (Кто то давно говорил, что органозаторы решают очередность выдачи роз, иногда для драмы, не знаю что тут было)
I'm not saying Olivia is Mother Theresa, as I'm a firm believer that you can't receive an edit that you haven't provided any footage for. But they can get very creative in how they use what you have provided. Long story short, there's definitely more to Olivia's story than her self-absorbed bitch edit.

Я отредактировала сообщения на предыдущей странице, чтобы то, что написала Шарлин шло по порядку (так было задумано )

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Chris Harrison Blogs 'The Bachelor'
One thing about The Bachelor is that we truly never really know what to expect. One minute Lace is acting strange and seems to be disconnected from the world, and the next minute she’s profoundly explaining her internal struggles. One minute Olivia is America’s favorite girl, and the next minute everyone in America is trying to figure out who the real Olivia is. One minute Jubilee is giving Ben an innocent massage, and then next minute she’s locked herself in a bathroom. No matter how long we do this, every Bachelor is different and every woman who comes looking for love is different, and we always find ourselves totally surprised.

Серьезно? :dntkw:
Я могу предвидеть поведение людей в стрессовых ситуациях, если я знаю об их проблемах, а они не могут??? А я уже думала, что все это продумывается и предвидется когда идет отбор девушек....

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)