Bachelor in Paradise

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

__________________
“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

__________________
“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

“Tia Is Playing With Tia’s Emotions:” Sharleen Joynt on Bachelor in Paradise: Episode 2

I think I’ve got the following rules of Paradise down…

Rule #1: There is a hierarchy and it is alive and well

a) Strong couples rule Paradise. They are at the top of the food chain.
b) The original cast will always be the original cast. They will stand together and protect each other like the clique that they are and those who arrive later are outsiders. (There are exceptions; please refer to previous point.)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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Rule #2: The popularity tides may turn

Case in point, former enemy-number-one Chris, laughingstock Jordan and guy-you-only-remember-for-having-worn-a-tracksuit-to-a-Rose-Ceremony Nick can and will band together and turn a former golden boy into the uncool kid. It’s a Bachelor Nation popularity bizarro world.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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Rule #3: A man will be shamed for not reciprocating a woman’s affections…

…long before that woman gets the flak she deserves for blindly continuing to shower him with those affections.

Rule #4: No matter how badly everyone might want someone gone…

…if production doesn’t want him gone (because, say, he provides automatic drama thanks to that aforementioned woman’s affections, plus they have the lead who broke his heart mere weeks ago waiting in a hotel room up the street), he’s not going anywhere.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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Rule #5: There seems to be a Michelle Money—the producer’s pet, the good sport—every season.

Yay, Bibiana!

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

Even knowing these rules, I think I might’ve learned something new last night! Honesty on The Bachelor and The Bachelorette: GOOD. Remember how Jean Blanc was raked over the coals for claiming he was falling in love with Becca, what he thought she wanted to hear? Meanwhile, just as #wrongreasons don’t exist here, apparently honesty has no place on Bachelor in Paradise, either. It was in Colton’s obvious short-term best interest to tell Tia what she wanted to hear last night. Hell, she pretty much told him straight-up:

While it’s the unspoken name of the Paradise game to seem more interested than you are for a rose and to then entertain other options when the tables are turned, Colton threw a real curveball last night by NOT lying for the sake of safety. And in a confusing twist of events, he was hated for it.
Objectively, I understand why. It’s clear Colton complicates things socially and makes for an awkward environment because of Tia.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

If Tia weren’t there, I’m sure a lady or two would be eyeing him. If Colton weren’t there, Tia would surely have had a more open mind herself. Everyone there is tiptoeing around the dramz, and since tiptoeing is sooo not paradisal, they’re keen to boot Colton. This brings me back to Rule 1b. Had Colton arrived at the same time as Tia, would he have still been targeted as the one to boot? After all, in addition to having a rose, Tia has seniority not only in terms of turf, but more importantly, with her castmates.

Until Week 2 (tonight, thank god) when those even lower on the totem pole arrive, Colton is a second-class citizen.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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But, a less pleasant living situation or not, contrary to what the constantly up-in-arms Chris believes, I don’t think Colton is playing with Tia’s emotions; Tia is playing with Tia’s emotions.

While I appreciate the girl power message of Tia realizing she deserved more than a guy who was wishy-washy about her, the hour or so leading up to that epiphany was pretty brutal. It felt like a reality-TV edition of He’s Just Not That Into You. If you have a history with a guy and upon arriving in Paradise, he speaks with just about every other woman before speaking with you, he’s just not that into you. If a guy says he wants to “explore his options,” he’s just not that into you. If he’s using the fact that he told another girl he loved her weeks prior as an excuse for wanting to explore said options, he’s just not that into you. If you can see him flirting with another girl in plain sight the day following what you considered to be a magical date, he’s just not that into you.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

If every single one of your female friends is telling you he’s just not that into you, he’s just not that into you. If you have to say any of the following sentences…
• “If I gave Colton my rose tonight it would mean, ‘OK, here is your second chance, and then he will get his shit together and decide that he wants to be with me, and go from there.”
• “You feel like you have me in your back pocket.”
• “You’re waiting around for the next best thing instead of pursuing what’s in front of you?”
• “I want something to be provoked in you, and it hasn’t.”
• “If you’re not ready then what are you doing?”
… he’s just not that into you.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

Look, I’ve rarely been critical of Tia ever (if at all?) while I’ve been openly skeptical of Colton time and time again. And I understand the general empathizing with Tia from a women-supporting-and-relating-to-women perspective…
But there is a huge difference between giving a guy too many chances and only hearing what you want to hear when he speaks to you. My biggest issue last night was with the sympathy vibes we were being fed for Tia. She’s proven a strong, opinionated, independent woman for as long as we’ve known her. She should be treated as such here, too. Just because her man radar is off in this instance doesn’t give her a free pass and make the man the automatic bad guy.

Colton isn’t Dean 2.0. He’s been nothing but brutally honest. Hell, last night he even said, “Honestly, I’m trying to stay transparent with you so… what happened with Dean doesn’t happen with us.” A good rule of thumb with men (and women, for that matter) who aren’t “ready” and don’t know what they want: They don’t know what they want until they do know what they want. Until then, you’re not it.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

__________________
“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

“He Came Off Worse Than on Becca’s Season:” Sharleen Joynt on Bachelor in Paradise: Episode 3

So… Chris’s “redemption” story? Yeeeeah. That’s not going so well right now.


If that is indeed what he’s going for, this is one SLOW, roundabout play.
Episode 3 was such a terrible look I don’t even know where to start, and incredibly, he came off even worse than on Becca’s season. At least one could argue his argumentative, righteous, aggressive behaviour then stemmed from a legitimate interest in and affection for Becca, an addition to the well-documented stressor that is the Bachelor Bubble. But the stressors in Paradise are not only different but less. Chris can’t blame being trapped in a hotel suite, being forced to sit with and talk about his enemies day in and day out, or using forced tunnel vision for one woman as his excuse for morphing into misogynistic hypocrite last night. Let us dissect…

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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Exhibit A: Hypocrisy

Chris says, “I’m going to leave [Tia] open as an option”, a day or two after crucifying Colton for essentially doing the same.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

Exhibit B: Deception

He tells an insecure Tia, “Like, honestly, like, I like you. Don’t worry about any other girls. Like, be that confident, strong, independent woman that you are. Just trust this and see where it goes… I think there could be something amazing between us… Trust me, just trust me.”

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

And ON THE SAME NIGHT (and still in the same outfit!) proceeds to make out with Krystal…

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

Exhibit C: Remorselessness

The next day, Chris brags about having made out with Krystal to his guy friends, gloating about the “line” he used.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

Exhibit D: Misogyny

That same day, Chris (with the enabling of Jordan), talks about the “tricks up his sleeve” and proceeds to break the women down according to what course they would serve as in a 4-course meal date plan.
They call Annaliese the “appetizer,” Krystal the “main course,” Bibiana “drinks and dessert” and Tia “the late, all-night palapa thing, the sobering moment.” I would have thought this revolting conversation was a bro-talk moment caught by a hidden camera, but at one point Chris LOOKS DIRECTLY INTO THE CAMERA. Which leads back to Exhibit C.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

barish

From a villain perspective, this is downright impressive. Like, it’d be legitimately difficult to stuff an ounce more of bad behaviour into a 14- or so hour span. But from a “good guy” perspective, it’s downright disgusting. Furthermore, it’s disappointing. Given his excellent apology during Becca’s season—where he took responsibility, didn’t blame anything on his edit, and generally seemed to have learned and grown from the experience—it’s clear Chris views himself as a slightly flawed but generally good guy. But that’s becoming less and less believable with every minute he spends on our TV screens. I might’ve agreed with him after reading that apology, and was certainly keen to see that redemptive story, a JJ Lane 2.0. But the boy has officially cried wolf more than once and now it’s hard to see him as anything more than a dreaded “Nice Guy.”

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

Максимилиан

Что-то слышно уже насчёт Беккиного F3, он будет на БиП, или его готовят в ГГ на 23-ий сезон?

barish

Когда Колтон был на одном шоу разговор зашел о Джейсоне. Говрили о его внешности. И ведущая спросила Колтона, бедь у Джейсона новая прическа на БиП? Колтон подтвердил, что да. Это единственное, что я пока слышала.
Ты же знаешь, решения о Холостяке теперь принимаются после БиП.
Ho:
Jul 24, 2018 - “I wasn't in the head space for that," Jason Tartick revealed to ET at Friday's "Men Tell All" taping about his BIP future.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

Максимилиан

Такая сильная любовь к Бекке, как была у Колтона и Джейсона, не проходит за несколько дней. С другой стороны, БиП - это возможность для них увидеть других девушек и потом уже начать съёмки "Холостяка" в более бодром настроении.