Холостячкa #11

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<center></center>And then there’s Ben H., a clear favorite among the ladies and a solid guy all around. You can tell that he had a slower time opening up to Kaitlyn and he explained some of that in the hot seat. But he is consistent and sure of himself and that goes a long way when it comes to eventually finding the person for you. I wish him luck.

I really did feel it was important that we address some of the social media bullying that goes on with people in the public eye and especially someone like Kaitlyn. I don’t want to go down the road again and get into what was said. You’ve all seen it and I read some of those things on the show, but let me say this now: When you say something hateful and hurtful to someone you don’t know on the Internet, you may think there is no impact. But you’re not talking to a character on a TV show — there are real human people on the receiving end of your hate. Even on the Internet, you should treat people the way you want to be treated. If you wouldn’t say it to your mother, you shouldn’t say it to anyone. I respect Kaitlyn’s strength and decisions and we, as a show, stand behind her as a strong, independent woman capable of making her own choices.

Next week is one of the most dramatic finales of all time. Nick, Shawn, and Kaitlyn. Two men that dislike each other more than any other two men in Bachelorette history and a woman who has very strong feelings for them both. What could possibly go wrong?
Don’t miss the live finale and After the Final Rose next Monday night. And the fun doesn’t stop there. Paradise is coming, along with our new show After Paradise, which you’ll hear more about this coming week.
It’s going to be a great summer. See you Monday.

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Sharleen Joynt on The Bachelorette: Men Tell All

Nothing brings me delight quite like Men Tell All. What social experiment would be complete without an “after” episode, where we can see the contestants—who’ve just seen themselves on television—in the now? Will they be loudmouths or shrinking violets? Will they defend their questionable actions, be able to laugh at themselves, or attempt to change the public’s (likely staunch) perception of them?

In keeping with my tradition of singling out my top three most memorable moments…

3. Nick Viall, Week 4, Their Prior Connection… Oh My!
Are we really still talking about this? A few of the guys couldn’t wait to mention how Kaitlyn, despite letting Nick on the show in Episode 4, said in Week 2 that she “could see her husband in the room”. I’d just like to point out that not only did the men with this gripe—Kupah, Jonathan, Corey—barely get to know Nick (if they met him at all), there is simply no way they ever reached the point to see themselves as the potential “husband in the room” she referenced. (No one-on-one dates for them as far as I can remember.) Interestingly, the men who stuck around the longest—Jared, the Bens—and who were ultimately more “heartbroken” by the experience, were also the ones who supported Kaitlyn’s decision to explore all her options.
Furthermore, after having gone through the experience themselves, they should know to take those stock “husband in the room” lines with a grain of salt. Hasn’t every Bachelor/ette said they could see their husband or wife in the room? It’s recycled television tripe, not to be taken seriously, much less used as an argument in a forced Men Tell All debate.

Clint was a surprise hit for me on this topic. He may have been unapologetic about his “villainous” behaviour, but on the topic of Nick—whom he never even met—he made a damn good point to Josh, with, “Don’t you think that by saying someone else isn’t right for her, that you are valuing your opinion above hers? If you were telling her that your intuition is that this other guy is bad, then you’re saying that you know better than her.”

Kaitlyn knocked this entire segment out of the park. I loved that she put Jonathan in his place for originally voting for Britt yet having the gall to criticize her for letting Nick stay. She finally shut down the peanut gallery with, “You guys, try and date this many people at one time and not make a mistake and have it all televised. I dare you.” Mic drop!

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2. Repent! And Thou Shalt Be Saved

Watching Ian watch his own segment was alone almost enough to let him off the hook. As he shook his head to the tune of his own voice saying, “If one of these lames is better than me, then just pick one of the lames”, I felt for him. I know what it’s like to be an introvert in a house full of extroverts; in fact, one of my books of choice to read off on my own during filming was, no joke, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking.
How would I have felt if, in addition to feeling so foreign, I also felt invisible to the lead? How much of a producer’s peppering would it take before I exploded and took my frustration out on others? (It says something that, based on Ian’s explosive exit, I could even tell who Ian’s producer was.)

With Kaitlyn, he was able to make fun of himself when his leg cramped while kneeling and apologize sincerely. Lo and behold, she accepted! This, to me, is what the Tell All episodes are about. What do you have to say after the fact, away from the cameras and the producers, having watched yourself and gained perspective? Ian made the best of this and did so with grace. He avoided the drama—you never saw his jumping to share his two cents about Kaitlyn letting Nick back on or judging Kaitlyn’s “distasteful” behavior—and used his moment to right his wrongs.

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1. If you don’t have something nice to say…
To me, the most bewildering part of this reality television world has always been people’s intense hatred and outspokenness. I completely understand the logic, and dare I say beauty, of differing opinions. The world would be a far more monotone, boring place if we all agreed all the time. But what happened to agreeing to disagree? When did someone else’s actions become your problem? How does an adult woman sleeping with a man she’s dating affect your life negatively? No one’s forcing you to do the same, nor are they forcing you to watch the show in the first place. (And while we’re at it, how does two people of the same gender being in love and wanting to get married affect you? No one is forcing you to live your life any differently. But alas, that is a tangent for another day!)

The reading of the hate tweets was certainly painful, but Kaitlyn took it very well and seemed to see the greater good. One could argue it only gave the haters the attention they seek, but I disagree. It was clear by how the segment was framed that whomever was featured for their nasty words should be ashamed of themselves. I am glad the show took the time to do this, and especially to point out the irony that one of the bullies publicly criticizing Kaitlyn was a mother herself. As Chris Harrison aptly put it, “I will take you as a role model for my kids over anybody who would be a cyber bully and spew that kind of hate.” Amen!

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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The Bachelorette's Kaitlyn Bristowe Blogs Why She Was Really Crying After Hearing Those Cruel Tweets on Men Tell All

The Men Tell All ... dun dun DUNNNNNN!

I'm not going to lie, I was NERVOUS for this. First of all, who has 20 ex-boyfriends? Secondly, who has to go face all of them in one room and talk about it? Especially with the topics I knew would be on the table!

Listening to the guys interact with each other reminded me of why I had feelings for the men I did. It meant a lot to hear them stand up for me. I am not sure if any of them read my blogs, but if you guys do, THANK YOU. To Clint, JJ, Tanner (although Tanner, you were pretty tough on me), Chris and Ben H., thank you. You guys all stood up for me, and I REALLY appreciated it.

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People like Corey kind of made me laugh. We didn't get to know each other well, so for him to have such a strong opinion and speak that way about me, I thought was tasteless and a bit pathetic. Nick coming on the show never ruined Corey's chance – his chance was ruined because he was someone I couldn't see myself with. It was the same situation with Kupah. Out of all people, I was surprised KUPAH was really going to question MY behavior! Did he not watch himself on the show? Kupah and Jonathan didn't even want me as the Bachelorette. Which is okay – I didn't expect everyone to want it to be me – but don't question my feelings and connections when you wanted to explore something with someone else from the beginning. Seems a bit contradictory to me.

Tanner, I apologize that you feel I went about bringing Nick on this journey with a poor delivery. I didn't know how to deliver that sort of news. From my point of view, I couldn't go through this whole season having so many relationships without upsetting someone. And I hope you can understand I was in a difficult head space when I made that choice. I do agree that my behavior of acting giddy was maybe a bit off-putting. But, to be honest, when I'm nervous, I get giddy and giggly. And for that I apologize.

JJ in the hot seat! Say what you want, but I did have a connection with JJ. He was an interesting quirky bull in a china shop, and I was just curious about him. There was something I was attracted to, and I've said it before: I didn't see a lot of the behavior in the house that everyone was telling me about. But after New York, I didn't hear anyone speak up about JJ. I guess all the focus was shifted to Nick. JJ, you should thank Nick for that (haha). Our relationship did just lose its momentum, and I just didn't see it moving forward. He was someone I enjoyed having at Men Tell All because he defended me, and that meant a lot.

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<center></center>Ben Z. was a tough one. We all know I understand what it feels like to be blindsided. I understand how it feels to have strong feelings and have no warning signs of that coming to an end. And, honestly, it was the night that I sent Ben Z. home that I realized I wasn't moving forward with our relationship. That was a difficult choice to make because I didn't want to blindside him. But, more importantly, I didn't want to string him along. I am grateful for that relationship. Ben Z. is such a sweet guy, and I think our time together was almost therapeutic. I think he got to do a lot of soul-searching and accept feelings he wasn't used to experiencing. I think Ben Z. realized that he can be emotional and that it's healthy. He is one solid dude, physically and now emotionally.

Jared. Sigh. Such a class act. A sweet, compassionate gentleman. I found Jared super attractive from the moment he was honest with me about voting for Britt. It takes a strong and confident man to do that. To me, Jared had such a handsome mysterious look, but he was no mystery. He was just an obviously honest man. It's hard to know that some of these men still have these feelings or that I could have had such an effect on their lives. But I hope they know they had an effect on mine as well. Guys like Jared are guys I won't forget. We had such a special thing, and we always had such a great time. If I knew on that road trip that I was going to only meet two families and go down to three so fast, I would have approached our road trip differently. I thought I would have more time with him. The only reasoning I had to end it was that I had stronger feelings for three other men. Saying that still feels so strange. But I will say, I am interested to see how things go for Jared on Bachelor in Paradise. He deserves the best!!

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<center></center>Ben H(andsome): Ben is one lovable dude. Did you guys see how he stood up for me? We had a solid, healthy and happy relationship. I think it is no secret that I like passion and intensity. And I think that was one thing missing between us. I know that sounds crazy because I know a life with Ben would be easy and enjoyable, but I just felt a lack of intensity, and that's just me being honest. What Ben and I went through on our journey was not easy! I put him in a tough position, and I screwed up. Again, I am human. But my mistake did allow me to see a tiny glimpse of intensity in Ben and truthfully brought us closer. I wish that man nothing but great things, and he better find someone as great as him.

Ian … what do I say? I did really appreciate Ian's apology. I knew he had probably been getting a lot of backlash for his behavior, and I'm glad he acknowledged his mistakes and owned up to them. An apology goes a long way with me. And I believe he meant it.

I live for bloopers. Any movie I have watched, I have watched the bloopers for it. I think moments like these are HILARIOUS. I wish there were more. Maybe less focus on my fear of birds and more of the guys' fart jokes! Am I right, Ian??? Haha, see … making jokes and being a little chirpy can all be in good fun.

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Which means it's time to address the online hate I have been dealing with. That was TOUGH to relive. Hearing Chris Harrison reading those Tweets and comments doesn't get any easier. People can be mean. I understand a couple jabs and chirps. I throw them out there in good humor, and opinions are fine. I can handle that. But hating and calling me awful names is not cooooool. The "haters" go out of their way to shame me for my behavior and don't acknowledge their own. I made mistakes and went through tough times. I did things that I would do in a relationship. I was being true to myself. You don't have to agree with it, but don't tell me I should crawl in a hole and die.
<center></center>The silver lining in this is that I have a unique opportunity to help bring more awareness to online bullying. People have taken their own lives due to this terrible issue. I am fortunate I have thick skin and can maybe use my experience to help others. It still brought me to tears to have the guys and the audience stand on their feet and show me their support. That means everything to me. So to everyone who has supported me along this journey, even if you didn't understand my choices, thank you.

Overall, it was so great to see these guys and maybe talk through some things. I was a little disappointed Tony was so silent. I thought we could have at least gotten an update on his bonsai trees. Everyone likes a good love story … and that's why you should tune in Monday the 27th! Ooooh, good segue, Kaitlyn!!! I cannot believe that's next week!!! So much to look forward to. Thank you to everyone who has stood by me along the way.

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IT’S ONE OF THE MOST ROMANTIC AND DRAMATIC NIGHTS EVER ON ABC,
ON THE THREE-HOUR LIVE SEASON FINALE EVENT OF
“THE BACHELORETTE,” MONDAY, JULY 27

“Episode 1110 –Season Finale – After Kaitlyn survived a heart-wrenching rejection by Chris Soules, and then a nerve-wracking night to become the Bachelorette over Britt, she moved forward for a chance at finding love with one of 26 intriguing bachelors. After surviving shocking twists and turns and a journey filled with laughter, tears, love and controversy, Kaitlyn narrowed down the field to two men who despise one another – Nick and Shawn. Her relationship with Shawn has survived several emotional bombshells, but she is still concerned that his jealous nature will sabotage her connection with him. Meanwhile, her relationship with Nick has been undeniably passionate and intense. But what will happen when their physical attraction fades? In this week’s dramatic conclusion, Kaitlyn is absolutely torn between the two men. She loves them and can envision a future with both bachelors, but time is running out.
Emotions run high as Kaitlyn sits down with Chris Harrison, live, to talk about her two final bachelors from this season – Nick and Shawn. She will take viewers back to those final days in Los Angeles when she needed to make her life-changing decision. Both men will return to sit with Kaitlyn and discuss the shocking outcome of the show and their relationships. It’s the emotional ending to Kaitlyn’s heartfelt, but provocative, journey to find true love. A sneak peek of the highly anticipated hot summer series, “Bachelor in Paradise,” also will be featured, on “The Bachelorette: After the FinalRose,” MONDAY, JULY 27

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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With a possible proposal just days away, Kaitlyn introduces both men to her family in Los Angeles. Family is extremely important to Kaitlyn, so it is essential that these meetings go well. Who will make a lasting impression?

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The family is first introduced to an extremely nervous Nick. Kaitlyn’s mom expresses her concern about Nick’s reputation as an unfriendly, overconfident man. Will he be able to convince her family that he is in love with the Bachelorette and he really is a nice guy?

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Next, Shawn attempts to dissuade Kaitlyn’s family that his reputation for having an intense jealous streak won’t get in the way of his love for their daughter.

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Kaitlyn has important last dates with both men before the proposal day. She takes a romantic boat ride with Nick and realizes their red hot chemistry is for real and can picture a future with him.

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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Her second date with Shawn gets off to a rocky start, as they spend an afternoon at a beautiful winery.

So many things remain unsaid between them. Will their original passion keep them together or is it the end of the road for the couple?

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The final days of Kaitlyn’s journey are filled with questions. Then, in a surprising, explosive ending, she must do the hardest thing she has ever done. Will her trip of self-discovery end with her accepting a proposal or will she end up all alone?

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)

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Kaitlyn Bristowe ‏@kaitlynbristowe · Jul 20
Kaitlyn Bristowe retweeted Trista Sutter
Thank you Trista 💗 means a lot
Trista Sutter @tristasutter @kaitlynbristowe
you are a BEAUTIFUL spirit & I am proud to share #Bachelorette shoes with someone so unapologetically genuine. #staystrong

Kaitlyn Bristowe ‏@kaitlynbristowe · Jul 21
Kaitlyn Bristowe retweeted Whitney Bischoff
Love you my little whit bish
Whitney Bischoff @whitbisch
Much ❤️ @kaitlynbristowe. U stood strong over the past several wks which is a tough act in today's world. Proud to call you a friend!

Kaitlyn Bristowe ‏@kaitlynbristowe · Jul 21
Kaitlyn Bristowe retweeted Courtney Robertson
I can't imagine what you went through!!
Courtney Robertson @bugrobertson
Refreshing to see @BacheloretteABC support @kaitlynbristowe From one death threat survivor to another, stay strong for you & your fam girl 🌻

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“The only thing that was ever wrong with me was my belief that something was wrong with me.” (c)